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The loss of a grandfather

April 1, 2013

Hello readers,

A week ago Sunday was 6 months since my dad passed away. It is still very surreal, as if he’s away on work or out running an errand. At this landmark in our family history, we reach another moment: my mother’s dad passing away two days later, March 26th, 2013.

My mom’s dad has always been one of my favorite people in this world. There is not a memory I have with him that doesn’t make me smile, laugh, or cry (in the best way). I want to take a short post here to tell you about how special this man is and a few of the wonderful things he taught me during my life.

Grandpa

Grandpa

My grandfather was a cabinet maker by trade though very skilled and talented in many ways. He enlisted in the Navy at 17 during WWII and was stationed in the Pacific. He was a carpenter and helped repair Higgins boats. It was such a treat to go to the WWII museum in New Orleans with him and hear him talk about repairing the boats in front of the actual boats. After the war, he returned home to marry his wife, of now 65 years. I won’t elaborate on how the rest of the story goes except they had 5 beautiful children together and have lived in the same house forever. Grandpa worked multiple jobs to give his wife and kids a good life. Speed ahead in the story and find beautiful marriages and children being born.

Many of my youngest memories are from my grandparents’ house. Grandma makes the best roast, mashed potatoes, rice, and veggies you’ve ever eaten. Grandpa used to take us to his workshop to build things or play in his office. After a long day of playing on the patio, working in the yard, or helping grind green peppers, Grandpa would pile us into his truck , make a stop at the corner shop for an Icee before heading up the levee to drive along the river, look at horses, count the peacocks, or whatever other adventures came our way.

My grandpa was a hardworking man. I would bet that is the most common word used to describe him, besides caring. My grandpa cared. He was an old fashioned, southern gentlemen. He always waved to everyone who passed, he helped people when they needed it, and he loved his family.

A few pieces of advice he always had for us are clear in this moment of remembrance. I remember as a kid flippantly saying “sorry” and Grandpa stopping me and telling me to only say I was sorry if I meant it and didn’t intend on doing it again. It made me stop to think about what the word sorry really means. I think about that lesson all the time (though I’m sure I say sorry and repeat my mistakes).

The other piece of advice or really words to live by were “Every dark cloud has a silver lining.” I think those words ring true more so today than ever before. As we celebrate my grandfather’s life and honor him, we can look to the silver lining. Though he is not with us on this earthy world any longer, he is with us in our hearts, minds, and all our beings.

I speak for myself when I say I would not be the person I am today without having a Grandpa like this. Looking forward I hope to instill the same values into my children and I know my mother will do the same into her grandchildren.

My cup runneth over,
-Amanda

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The hardest year I have yet to experience.

February 24, 2013

Hello readers.

I have been without my father for 5 months today. He was the rock of our family. I know we will make it and survive without him, and that we are better because he was our father, husband, uncle, friend. I gave the eulogy at my father’s funeral. I am not going to share it because it is personal to those who knew him, but I often think about all the lessons he taught me whether it was how to fix a toilet, how to do my taxes, or how to treat other people. His lessons, talents, and love are all around me in my everyday actions. I know those of you who have lost a father, or close friend or family member, probably understand these feelings and thoughts.

The past year has been one of the hardest I have yet to experience. I was honored to help take care of my dad during his fight with cancer and miss him everyday. Some days are much harder than others. I talk to him a lot. I think of my dad as my angel who takes care of me from up above. I imagine him with my sister’s dog who passed away last year and with his parents and others we love who have passed away.

The past year has been one of the hardest some those around me have yet to experience. Within the past year, at least 5 co-workers have been somehow touched or affected by cancer or something terminal. Within the past year, at least 4 former co-workers have lost a parent. I am not sure how many more were affected by something similar, but I’m sure more, but life is real and sometimes I think reflecting on those feelings, experiences, and emotions are what bring us together as a community.

The past year has been one of the hardest for those I don’t even know have yet to experience. I know this blog is very happy and upbeat, but life is real and sometimes I think reflecting on those feelings, experiences, and emotions are what bring us together as a community.

Thanks to everyone who checks in, distracts, or carries on with life. You are inspiring, helpful, and my rock.

Happy memories,
Amanda

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Hope and Love

January 1, 2013

We have been inactive on Cut.Bake.Stitch. for a while now and I think it is the appropriate time to make a post with a small update.

For the past twelve months, give or take a few, our family has been brought tighter and stronger through the battle so many families are familiar with: cancer.  Our father’s cancer returned last winter and united our family through hope and love.  I am saddened to say our father lost his battle a few months ago.  We are grieving the loss and will miss him always, though we recall so many wonderful memories and lessons we have shared throughout our lives.

I know some of our readers are close friends and family while others are distant strangers, but I think we are all connected in so many ways, including, unfortunately, through cancer.

For those of you who stumble upon this post and are also grieving, I will leave you with a prayer we found touching and meaningful after our father passed.

With love,
Amanda

I’m Free
Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free; I took His hand when I heard him call; I turned my back and left it all. If my parting has left a void; then fill it with remembered joy. My life’s been full, I savored much; good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss; ah yes, these things, I too, will miss. Perhaps my time seemed all too brief; don’t lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your hearts and share with me; God wanted me now, He set me free.

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Valentine’s is my favorite.

February 14, 2012

I’m not sure if I posted last year on Valentine’s day, but just in case I didn’t, I want all of you to know how much I love and adore this holiday.  I am not normally a pink heart and fuzzy stuffed animal lover.  (Well, I retract the fuzzy stuffed animal comment, I love those!)  I cannot resist pink and red and hearts and love when it comes to February.  I have no idea what it is about this day.

One of the best Valentine’s Days I have ever had was as a senior in high school.  Sarah and our best friend Kelly made shirts and were each other’s valentines.  It was amazing.

This year I was able to give Valentine gifts to three of my best friends when I saw them and it made me so happy!  Seriously, love and hearts and happiness, that’s what life is all about!

Happy Valentine’s Day to all our wonderful followers.  I hope your day is filled with unexpected smiles and love.  You deserve all the happiness in the world!

Love and happiness,
-Amanda